Inner happiness

There is so much awful news floating around this week that I am in sympathy/righteous indignation overload. It's time to take a break and focus on the good things.

Five years ago I was married to a person who was utterly miserable. To deal with his unhappiness, he worked really hard to make everyone else feel worse than he did. He was very good at it. I was desperately unhappy, abused in several different ways, trying to protect my kids and keep my sanity. I had few if any friends.

It's much different now. I have gotten divorced (no easy task). My children have a safe and happy harbor with me. I love them with all my heart and I hope I can show them what they deserve in life-- to be happy. My son in particular is growing into a man that I can be proud of.

I've met a super man who is now my boyfriend. We get along famously! Like as famous as Simon and Garfunkel! We can act like total nerds with each other and it's a Good Thing. I'm also still trying to get used to my dirty dishes mysteriously moving from my place at the table to the dishwasher. That's never happened before in my life.

I have my own space, a house that I love and am slowly decorating to fit my personality. I put things on the wall that I like, that mean something to me. I put them where I want to put them, and move them again if I don't like it. I am going to paint my bedroom GOLD, as in shiny metallic gold, because it sounds cool and I WANT TO.

I have this incredible sense of self. I feel truly happy. I know how strong I am, that I can survive practically anything, I know I rock. No one was able to beat me down.

Peace out, sisters and brothers.

Comments

Spudster said…
I have met few people more deserving of the happiness that you have found, darlin'. You have a life worthy of envy. :)

- Al
April 23, 2007 at 9:15 AM
Anonymous said…
Hello! What a great post! I can't wait to read more of your blog - it's such a good way of keeping in touch. Having said that, I don't think you can read my lj coz most of it is friends locked!

xx
April 23, 2007 at 11:15 AM
West Coast Midwestern said…
Lady! I am SO happy that I found your blog (becaus you commented on my blog)!

More importantly, I am so proud of you for all that you have overcome!

Oh, and please keep writing! I love it!!!
April 24, 2007 at 2:55 PM
Laurie Stark said…
I love it. (a) You are amazing, (b) You have the most welcoming, comfortable house. Your decorating style is wonderful. And the gold metallic room? DO IT!
April 29, 2007 at 9:16 AM
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