I can fly
~E~
I didn't realize how heavy the weight of it all was, until it wasn't there anymore. The weight of being ultra responsible for, not a child, but a freaking adult.
I put my all into being super aware of his feelings and moods, making sure everything was going ok, making sure to have open communication so no one got hurt. yeah, that only works if both people do it. I tried to be very understanding of past hurts, and tried hard to soothe those hurts over and not create new ones.
I knew that to get the relationship I wanted, I had to communicate. I had to MAKE it the relationship I wanted. But when the other half just coasts along pretending it's the relationship they've always dreamed of, ignoring signs it might not be, refusing to do the work of making it WORK? Assuming rather than asking? What do you do then? Especially when, at the time, it's all so invisible.
I also do not understand at all how a person can feel so incomplete and unhappy unless they have a partner - any partner - to validate their existence. You have to know yourself and be happy within yourself before you can truly be half of a couple and be happy. That's advice for everyone. Life is fine, good, on your own. You have to know you can do it alone or you're just sadly desperate. No one likes desperate.
I've been so happy, so free, I know I did the right thing. I know I did the right thing for both of us.
I've met some really interesting people, made some friends (hi, M.C. :) ), learned some new things, forgotten some old things. Taken some risks and gotten over some fears.
Eat cake, bitches.
I didn't realize how heavy the weight of it all was, until it wasn't there anymore. The weight of being ultra responsible for, not a child, but a freaking adult.
I put my all into being super aware of his feelings and moods, making sure everything was going ok, making sure to have open communication so no one got hurt. yeah, that only works if both people do it. I tried to be very understanding of past hurts, and tried hard to soothe those hurts over and not create new ones.
I knew that to get the relationship I wanted, I had to communicate. I had to MAKE it the relationship I wanted. But when the other half just coasts along pretending it's the relationship they've always dreamed of, ignoring signs it might not be, refusing to do the work of making it WORK? Assuming rather than asking? What do you do then? Especially when, at the time, it's all so invisible.
I also do not understand at all how a person can feel so incomplete and unhappy unless they have a partner - any partner - to validate their existence. You have to know yourself and be happy within yourself before you can truly be half of a couple and be happy. That's advice for everyone. Life is fine, good, on your own. You have to know you can do it alone or you're just sadly desperate. No one likes desperate.
I've been so happy, so free, I know I did the right thing. I know I did the right thing for both of us.
I've met some really interesting people, made some friends (hi, M.C. :) ), learned some new things, forgotten some old things. Taken some risks and gotten over some fears.
Eat cake, bitches.
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